12
Oct
09

Zhuge Liang.. The Sleeping Dragon

 

Zhuge Liang (Cina: 诸葛亮; Pinyin: Zhu ge Liang, 181-234) adalah Kanselir dari Shu Han pada masa Tiga Kerajaan periode cina. Dia sering diakui sebagai terbesar dan paling sukses di jamannya strategi. 
Sering digambarkan memakai jubah dan memegang kipas yang terbuat dari bulu bangau, [2] Zhuge tidak hanya penting strategi militer dan negarawan; dia juga seorang ilmuwan dan penemu dicapai. Reputasinya sebagai sarjana yang cerdas dan belajar tumbuh bahkan saat ia tinggal di pengasingan relatif, penghasilan dia julukan “Fúlóng” (伏龙, alternatif diterjemahkan sebagai “Hidden Dragon” [3]).
Zhuge adalah dua karakter umum senyawa nama keluarga. Nama-Nya – bahkan marganya sendiri – telah menjadi identik dengan kecerdasan dan taktik dalam budaya Cina.

Early life
Zhuge Liang lahir di Yangdu County (阳都) di Langya Commandery (琅琊), saat hari Yinan County (沂南), Shandong Province. Dia adalah yang kedua dari tiga bersaudara dan menjadi yatim piatu pada usia dini; ibunya meninggal ketika ia berusia sembilan tahun, dan ayahnya ketika ia berusia dua belas tahun. Pamannya mengangkat dia dan saudara-saudaranya. Ketika Cao Cao menyerang Shandong di 195, keluarganya terpaksa melarikan diri ke selatan dan pamannya segera meninggal karena sakit.
Kedua saudara perempuannya yang menikah dengan keluarga terkenal dengan berbagai hubungan di daerah. Selama sepuluh tahun ia tinggal di Longzhong Commandery (隆中; pada hari sekarang Hubei provinsi) dengan saudara-saudaranya Zhuge Jin dan Zhuge Juni (诸葛均), memimpin kehidupan petani sederhana – pertanian pada siang hari dan belajar di malam hari.


Kuil Marquis Wu di Chengdu, sebuah kuil pemujaan Zhuge Liang.

Dia mengembangkan persahabatan di antara intelektual lokal. Reputasi tumbuh dan dia dijuluki “Crouching (atau Tidur) Dragon”, sebuah indikasi dari kebijaksanaan di berbagai bidang seperti teman-temannya melihat dia. Ia menikahi putri Huang Chengyan, yang istrinya adalah adik dari Lady Cai (istri dari panglima perang Liu Biao dan adik dari Cai Mao). Nama istri Zhuge Liang dikabarkan akan Huang Yueying. Keluarga Huang juga terkait dengan beberapa marga-marga lain yang didirikan di wilayah ini.

Rise to prominence
Panglima perang Liu Bei tinggal di kota tetangga Xiangyang bawah relatif jauh dan Gubernur Provinsi Jing (荆州), Liu Biao. Zhuge Liang Liu Bei bergabung di 207 hanya setelah Liu Bei tiga kali mengunjungi dirinya secara pribadi. Zhuge Liang terkenal menyampaikan Rencana Longzhong kepada Liu Bei dan pergi ke Wu untuk membentuk aliansi antara Liu Bei dan penguasa Sun Quan.
Dalam Battle of Red Cliffs dari 208, tentara sekutu Liu Bei dan Sun Quan mengalahkan Cao Cao, Liu Bei dengan demikian memungkinkan untuk mendirikan wilayah sendiri. Novel sejarah Kisah Tiga Negara menggambarkan Zhuge Liang memanggil angin tenggara melahirkan seorang untuk meningkatkan Huang Gai ’s api-serangan dengan menyebarkan kobaran api di kapal-kapal Cao Cao. Pada kenyataannya, bagaimanapun, itu Zhou Yu yang menjadi otak serangan api. Dalam cerita rakyat, angin tersebut diberikan untuk baik Zhuge Liang sihir atau kemampuannya untuk prediksi yang akurat mengenai cuaca.
Aliansi dengan Sun Quan telah rusak ketika Wu umum Lü Meng menyerbu Jing Propinsi di 219 sementara pembela Guan Yu berada di Pertempuran Fancheng. Guan Yu tertangkap oleh pasukan Wu dan dipenggal kepalanya. Liu Bei yang marah akibat eksekusi dari kawan lama dan ia mengabaikan semua saran dari rakyatnya untuk menahan diri. Dia memimpin pasukan untuk menyerang Wu dan dikalahkan di berikutnya Pertempuran Yiling oleh Lu Xun. Liu meninggal di benteng Baidicheng setelah terburu-buru dan memalukan mundur ke perbatasan sendiri. Setelah kematian Liu Bei, Zhuge Liang menjadi rektor Shu Han di bawah Liu Shan, putra Liu Bei. Dia menegaskan kembali aliansi dengan Wu. Meskipun permintaan Liu Bei Zhuge Liang beranggapan bahwa kontrol Shu Han Liu Shan jika terbukti sebagai pemimpin yang tidak kompeten, Zhuge menolak tawaran itu dan terus melayani tergoyahkan Liu Shan dengan kesetiaan.

The Southern Expedition
Selama memerintah sebagai bupati, Zhuge Liang Shu Han menetapkan tujuan untuk memulihkan Dinasti Han. Dinasti Han telah direbut oleh Cao Wei dari Shu sudut pandang. Zhuge Liang merasa bahwa untuk menyerang Wei, penyatuan lengkap Shu-Han adalah pertama-tama dibutuhkan. Dia khawatir bahwa Nanman suku-suku di selatan dapat bangkit dalam pemberontakan dan tekan ke daerah-daerah sekitar ibukota Chengdu sementara ia memimpin pasukan untuk menyerang Cao Wei di utara. Zhuge Liang memutuskan untuk mendamaikan suku-suku selatan pertama.
Ma Su, saudara dari Ma Liang, Zhuge Liang mengusulkan agar harus berusaha untuk memenangkan hati rakyat dan rally Nanman dukungan mereka daripada menggunakan kekuatan militer untuk menaklukkan mereka semua. Zhuge Liang Ma diperhatikan saran dan mengalahkan pemimpin pemberontak, Meng Huo, tujuh kali. Ia melepaskan Meng setiap kali dalam rangka mencapai asli Meng menyerah. 
Meng Huo setuju untuk bergabung Zhuge Liang dalam persetujuan asli. Zhuge Liang menunjuk dia sebagai gubernur wilayah untuk menjaga konten rakyat dan mengamankan perbatasan Shu selatan. Ini menjamin bahwa masa depan Ekspedisi Utara akan terus berjalan tanpa gangguan internal. Zhuge Liang juga memperoleh sumber daya dari selatan, dan setelah ini, Zhuge Liang membuat bergerak ke utara.

The Northern Expeditions
Dari 228 sampai kematiannya pada tahun 234, Zhuge Liang meluncurkan lima Ekspedisi Utara melawan Cao Wei, tapi semua kecuali satu gagal. Kegagalan biasanya disebabkan oleh kekurangan atau kelelahan persediaan makanan daripada kekalahan di medan perang. Satu-satunya keuntungan permanen adalah penambahan Wudhu (武都) dan Yinping (阴平) prefektur serta relokasi warga negara untuk Shu Wei kadang-kadang.
Selama Ekspedisi Utara pertama, Zhuge Liang membujuk Jiang Wei Cao Wei untuk membelot ke Shu Han. Jiang Wei akan menjadi salah satu jenderal yang terkenal dan mewarisi Shu Zhuge Liang cita-cita. Pada ekspedisi kelima, Zhuge meninggal karena penyakit di kamp dalam Pertempuran Wuzhang Plains pada usia 54. On Zhuge’s rekomendasi, Liu Shan menugaskan Jiang Wan untuk menggantikannya sebagai bupati. 
Di Kisah Tiga Kerajaan, Zhuge Liang mencoba untuk memperpanjang umur dua belas tahun melalui sebuah ritual. Dia gagal ketika ritual itu terganggu oleh Wei Yan, yang bergegas masuk untuk memperingatkan tentang kemajuan tentara Wei. Novel ini juga terkait kisah Zhuge Liang lulus 24 Volumes pada Strategi Militer (兵法二十四篇) untuk Jiang Wei sebelum kematiannya.

In Romance of the Three Kingdoms
Kebijaksanaan dan prestasi Zhuge Liang yang dipopulerkan oleh Kisah Tiga Negara dikaitkan dengan Luo Guanzhong lebih dari satu milenium setelah era Tiga Kerajaan berakhir. Novel populer menggabungkan banyak cerita rakyat, dan opera pseudohistories scripts menjadi karakter Zhuge Liang, mengubahnya menjadi suatu perwujudan dari intelijen itu sendiri. Perbedaan dari account bersejarah meliputi:

Menggunakan perahu jerami untuk meminjam panah
Sebelum Pertempuran Red Cliffs, Zhuge Liang mengunjungi kamp Wu untuk membantu Zhou Yu. Zhou Yu melihat Zhuge Liang sebagai ancaman terhadap Wu dan juga cemburu pada bakat Zhuge Liang. Zhuge Liang ia ditugaskan tugas untuk membuat 100.000 anak panah dalam sepuluh hari atau menghadapi kegagalan dalam pelaksanaan tugas-tugas di bawah hukum militer. Zhuge Liang berjanji bahwa ia akan menyelesaikan tugas yang tampaknya mustahil ini dalam tiga hari. Ia meminta 20 kapal besar, masing-masing dijaga oleh beberapa tentara dan diisi dengan jerami seperti sosok manusia. Sebelum subuh, Zhuge Liang memerintahkan tentara untuk mengalahkan genderang perang dan meneriakkan perintah sehingga meniru suara serangan.
Zhuge Liang minum anggur dengan Lu Su di salah satu perahu. Prajurit Wei tidak dapat melihat menembus kabut dan menembak tembakan panah di suara drum. Angka-angka jerami segera ditembus oleh beberapa anak panah, yang menjadi terjebak dalam jerami. Zhuge Liang kembali ke Wu di kemenangan.

Batu Sentinel Maze
Dalam Bab 84, sebagai Lu Xun mengejar Liu Bei yang melarikan diri setelah Pertempuran Yiling, ia merasakan kehadiran musuh yang kuat di dekat Baidicheng dan memperingatkan pasukannya untuk kemungkinan penyergapan. Dia mengirim pengintai ke depan, yang melaporkan bahwa kawasan itu kosong kecuali beberapa tumpukan batu berserakan. Bingung, dia bertanya pada salah seorang penduduk setempat, yang menjawab bahwa Qi mulai muncul dari daerah itu setelah Zhuge Liang telah mengatur batu-batu di sana. Lu Xun daerah secara pribadi memeriksa dan menentukan bahwa array itu hanya layar kecil penipuan. Dia memimpin beberapa Cavaliers ke dalam array. Tepat ketika ia hendak keluar, embusan kuat angin bertiup. Gelap badai debu-langit dan batu-batu menjadi pedang, tumpukan tanah bergunung-gunung muncul sedangkan gelombang Sungai Yangtze terdengar seperti pedang dan drum. Lu Xun berseru, “Aku telah jatuh ke dalam perangkap Zhuge!” dan mencoba untuk keluar sia-sia.
Tiba-tiba, Lu Xun melihat seorang lelaki tua berdiri di hadapannya, yang bertanya apakah ia perlu bantuan keluar dari array. Lu Xun mengikuti pria itu dan keluar dari labirin terluka. Orang tua itu memperkenalkan dirinya sebagai ayah Zhuge Liang mertuanya Huang Chengyan. Huang menjelaskan bahwa array dibangun menggunakan ide-ide dari Bagua. Chengyan Huang mengatakan bahwa Zhuge Liang telah meramalkan bahwa Wu umum akan kesempatan pada labirin ini ketika ia pertama kali dibangun struktur. Zhuge tanya Chengyan Huang tidak untuk memimpin umum ketika itu terjadi. Lu Xun segera turun dari kudanya dan berterima kasih Huang Chengyan. Ketika ia kembali ke perkemahan, ia berseru bahwa ia tidak pernah bisa mengalahkan Zhuge Liang di intelijen.

Empty Fort Strategy
Selama Ekspedisi Utara pertama, Zhuge Liang upaya untuk menangkap Chang’an telah dirusak oleh kerugian pada Pertempuran Jieting. Dengan hilangnya Jieting, Zhuge Liang lokasi saat ini, Xicheng (西城), berada dalam bahaya besar. Dengan mengerahkan pasukan di tempat lain dan pergi dengan hanya beberapa pejabat sipil di kota, Zhuge Liang memutuskan untuk menggunakan taktik untuk mengusir pasukan Wei mendekat.
Zhuge Liang memerintahkan semua pintu gerbang dibuka dan penduduk sipil menyapu jalan saat ia duduk tinggi di atas gerbang dengan tenang memainkan kecapi dengan dua anak di sampingnya. Ketika komandan Cao Wei Sima Yi mendekati benteng dengan militer Wei, ia bingung dengan pemandangan dan memerintahkan pasukannya untuk mundur.
Zhuge Liang kemudian kepada petugas sipil yang bingung bahwa strategi hanya bekerja karena Sima Yi curiga oleh alam. Sima telah secara pribadi menyaksikan keberhasilan Zhuge Liang sangat efektif dan penyesatan ambushing taktik berkali-kali sebelumnya jadi ia mungkin merasa curiga ketika ia melihat pemandangan terbuka di hadapannya sekarang. Selain itu, Zhuge Liang memiliki reputasi sebagai yang tajam tapi sangat hati-hati taktik militer yang jarang mengambil risiko. Zhuge Liang’s ketelitian, ditambah dengan kecurigaan Sima Yi, Sima Yi membawa kepada kesimpulan bahwa benteng kosong yang tampaknya memiliki penyergapan tersembunyi di dalamnya. Ini adalah strategi yang sama tidak akan bekerja pada orang lain. Memang, anak Sima Yi Sima Zhao melihat langsung melalui tipu muslihat dan menasihati ayahnya melawan mundur.

Portrayals in Popular Culture
Film / TV series
Dalam serial TV Kisah Tiga Kerajaan oleh CCTV, Zhuge Liang diperankan oleh Tang Guoqiang. Zhuge Liang diperankan oleh Pu Quanxin sebagai peran kecil di film Three Kingdoms: Resurrection of the Dragon, yang disutradarai oleh Daniel Lee. Takeshi Kaneshiro memainkan Zhuge Liang di John Woo’s Red Cliff.

Video game
Zhuge Liang’s reputasi untuk menjadi jenius yang tak tertandingi ini juga ditekankan dalam perannya dalam permainan video. Mencerminkan statusnya sebagai strategi yang paling diakui dalam novel Kisah Tiga Kerajaan, permainan seperti Destiny dari Kaisar dan Koei ’s Kisah Tiga Negara tempat seri kecerdasan Zhuge Liang statistik sebagai yang tertinggi dari semua karakter.
Zhuge Liang adalah pelaku utama dalam Koei ’s taktis role-playing game Sangokushi Koumeiden, di mana ia dapat mati di Wuzhang Plains, seperti yang ia lakukan secara historis, atau pergi untuk mengembalikan Dinasti Han di bawah Emperor Xian. Dia juga muncul dalam permainan populer Dynasty Warriors series. Untuk informasi lebih lanjut, lihat Daftar karakter Dynasty Warriors.
Zhuge Liang juga merupakan karakter utama pada pengiriman kedua Koei’s Kessen permainan juga menggambarkan dirinya sebagai seorang ahli strategi serta untuk mengalahkan musuh utama pada kampanye Wei.
Zhuge Liang digambarkan sebagai seorang gadis muda di Jepang eroge Koihime Muso.
Dalam Warrior Orochi, Zhuge Liang berpura-pura menjadi sekutu Orochi. Sementara ia sedang menghadapi pasukan Zhao Yun Sun Ce dan pasukan, Zhuge dikhianati Da Ji dan telah dia menunjukkan kepadanya di mana Liu Bei itu diadakan. Dalam Warrior Orochi 2, ia menemukan tempat persembunyian Da Ji di Shi Ting, dan ia dan istrinya, Huang Yue Ying, membantu untuk menangkap kedua Da Ji dan Himiko.
Dalam permainan kartu koleksi Magic the Gathering ada kartu bernama Kongming, “Sleeping Dragon”, dalam Portal: Tiga Kerajaan ditetapkan.

 

 

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zhuge_Liang

07
Oct
09

Keunikan Dunia Sepakbola Indonesia

1. Menonton kompetisi liga super Indonesia seperti menonton liga ekspatriat di negeri sendiri, jumlah pemain asing yang dimainkan hampir lebih banyak dari pemain lokal. Sayangnya, kualitas pemain asing rata-rata tidak lebih baik dari pemain lokal. Umumnya mereka lebih besar, tinggi dan garang di lapangan.

2. Cuma di Indonesia, klub di biayai pemda dimana uangnya diperoleh dari rakyat.

3. Cuma di Indonesia pula, walikota/Bupati/Gubernur merangkap ketua klub.

4. Banyak pejabat di daerah terlibat kasus korupsi hanya gara-gara salah mengelola keuangan klub dengan mencampur adukkan dengan Anggaran pendapatan dan belanja daerah setempat

5. Bisa jadi, di beberapa daerah, jumlah penonton yang membayar tiket pertandingan dengan yang tidak membayar berbanding 50-50.

6. Di musim hujan, tempat paling strategis menonton pertandingan adalah di bawah pohon tinggi yang menjulang di balik tempbok stadion.

7. Penonton Indonesia dikenal fanatik, nekat dan tak takut mati, bahkan mungkin lebih nekat dari Hooligan Inggris. Mereka berani memanjat menara lampu stadion yang tinggi di tengah hujan demi bisa menonton pertandingan secara GRATIS. 

8. Untuk bertahan di tengah kompetisi yang ketat, pemain Indonesia harus dibekali dengan skill sepakbola, lari, dan pencak silat atau tinju. Lari utuk menghindari kejaran penonton suporter atau manajer lawan yang mengamuk karena kalah, pencak silat atau tinju untuk membela diri jika sudah terpojok dengan lawan atau ketika emosi dengan keputusan wasit.

9. Bus klub yang digunakan untuk mengangkut pamain sebaiknya haruslah berlapis baja. Karena jika tidak bisa ringsek dihadang suporter tim lawan yang menghadang di jalan.

10. Sulit mendapatkan sisi lapangan yang tidak terggenang air ketika hujan di Indonesia

11. Ajaib!! Ketua umumnya masuk penjara tapi masih bisa memimpin organisasi PSSI.

12. Tak usah takut dengan skorsing yang dijatuhkan oleh komisi disiplin, karena nantinya pasti akan diampuni oleh ketua umum.
13. Jarak laga tandang yang harus dilakoni sebuah klub di Indonesia bisa jadi yang terjauh. Bayangkan jika klub asal Aceh harus terbang ke papua atau sebaliknya.

14. Di Indonesia, petugas keamanan menghadap ke lapangan bukan ke arah penonton, bahkan beberapa diantaranya terlihat duduk dan bersorak memberi dukungan untuk tim tuan rumah.

15. Cuma di Indonesia, polisi turun tangan melerai dan menangkap dua pemain yang bertikai di lapangan. Bahkan sempat memenjarakannya.

16. Di Indonesia yang memukul bukan hanya pemain dan offisial, wasit pun tak mau kalah lho.

17. Kadang-kadang, lapangan juga dijadikan tempat membuang sampah oleh penonton ,terutama jika tim kesayangannya kalah

18. Jika sebelum pertandingan lapangan disterilkan, seringkali akan ditemukan banyak benda berbau klenik di seputaran gawang. 

19. Meski telah diperiksa petugas sebelum masuk, masih banyak penonton membunyikan peluit di tengah atau akhir pertandingan. Tidak diketahui dimana mereka menyembunyikan benda terlarang tersebut, kemungkinan di daerah “terlarang” yang bebas razia.

23
Sep
09

Statistics of a Fatherless America

Sexual activity. In a study of 700 adolescents, researchers found that “compared to families with two natural parents living in the home, adolescents from single-parent families have been found to engage in greater and earlier sexual activity.”
Source: Carol W. Metzler, et al. “The Social Context for Risky Sexual Behavior Among Adolescents,” Journal of Behavioral Medicine 17 (1994).

A myriad of maladies. Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse, mental illness, suicide, poor educational performance, teen pregnancy, and criminality.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics, Survey on Child Health, Washington, DC, 1993.

Drinking problems. Teenagers living in single-parent households are more likely to abuse alcohol and at an earlier age compared to children reared in two-parent households
Source: Terry E. Duncan, Susan C. Duncan and Hyman Hops, “The Effects of Family Cohesiveness and Peer Encouragement on the Development of Adolescent Alcohol Use: A Cohort-Sequential Approach to the Analysis of Longitudinal Data,” Journal of Studies on Alcohol 55 (1994).

Drug Use: ”…the absence of the father in the home affects significantly the behavior of adolescents and results in the greater use of alcohol and marijuana.”
Source: Deane Scott Berman, “Risk Factors Leading to Adolescent Substance Abuse,”Adolescence 30 (1995)

Sexual abuse. A study of 156 victims of child sexual abuse found that the majority of the children came from disrupted or single-parent homes; only 31 percent of the children lived with both biological parents. Although stepfamilies make up only about 10 percent of all families, 27 percent of the abused children lived with either a stepfather or the mother’s boyfriend.
Source: Beverly Gomes-Schwartz, Jonathan Horowitz, and Albert P. Cardarelli, “Child Sexual Abuse Victims and Their Treatment,” U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention.

Child Abuse. Researchers in Michigan determined that “49 percent of all child abuse cases are committed by single mothers.”
Source: Joan Ditson and Sharon Shay, “A Study of Child Abuse in Lansing, Michigan,”Child Abuse and Neglect, 8 (1984).

Deadly predictions. A family structure index — a composite index based on the annual rate of children involved in divorce and the percentage of families with children present that are female-headed — is a strong predictor of suicide among young adult and adolescent white males.
Source: Patricia L. McCall and Kenneth C. Land, “Trends in White Male Adolescent, Young-Adult and Elderly Suicide: Are There Common Underlying Structural Factors?” Social Science Research 23, 1994.

High risk. Fatherless children are at dramatically greater risk of suicide.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics, Survey on Child Health, Washington, DC, 1993.

Suicidal Tendencies. In a study of 146 adolescent friends of 26 adolescent suicide victims, teens living in single-parent families are not only more likely to commit suicide but also more likely to suffer from psychological disorders, when compared to teens living in intact families.
Source: David A. Brent, et al. “Post-traumatic Stress Disorder in Peers of Adolescent Suicide Victims: Predisposing Factors and Phenomenology.” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 34, 1995.

Confused identities. Boys who grow up in father-absent homes are more likely that those in father-present homes to have trouble establishing appropriate sex roles and gender identity.
Source: P.L. Adams, J.R. Milner, and N.A. Schrepf, Fatherless Children, New York, Wiley Press, 1984.

Psychiatric Problems. In 1988, a study of preschool children admitted to New Orleans hospitals as psychiatric patients over a 34-month period found that nearly 80 percent came from fatherless homes.
Source: Jack Block, et al. “Parental Functioning and the Home Environment in Families of Divorce,” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 27 (1988)

Emotional distress. Children living with a never-married mother are more likely to have been treated for emotional problems.
Source: L. Remez, “Children Who Don’t Live with Both Parents Face Behavioral Problems,”Family Planning Perspectives (January/February 1992).

Uncooperative kids. Children reared by a divorced or never-married mother are less cooperative and score lower on tests of intelligence than children reared in intact families. Statistical analysis of the behavior and intelligence of these children revealed “significant detrimental effects” of living in a female-headed household. Growing up in a female-headed household remained a statistical predictor of behavior problems even after adjusting for differences in family income.
Source: Greg L. Duncan, Jeanne Brooks-Gunn and Pamela Kato Klebanov, “Economic Deprivation and Early Childhood Development,” Child Development 65 (1994).
Unstable families, unstable lives. Compared to peers in two-parent homes, black children in single-parent households are more likely to engage in troublesome behavior, and perform poorly in school.
Source: Tom Luster and Hariette Pipes McAdoo, “Factors Related to the Achievement and Adjustment of Young African-American Children.” Child Development 65 (1994): 1080-1094

Beyond class lines. Even controlling for variations across groups in parent education, race and other child and family factors, 18- to 22-year-olds from disrupted families were twice as likely to have poor relationships with their mothers and fathers, to show high levels of emotional distress or problem behavior, [and] to have received psychological help.
Source: Nicholas Zill, Donna Morrison, and Mary Jo Coiro, “Long Term Effects of Parental Divorce on Parent-Child Relationships, Adjustment and Achievement in Young Adulthood.”Journal of Family Psychology 7 (1993).

Fatherly influence. Children with fathers at home tend to do better in school, are less prone to depression and are more successful in relationships. Children from one-parent families achieve less and get into trouble more than children from two parent families.
Source: One Parent Families and Their Children: The School’s Most Significant Minority,conducted by The Consortium for the Study of School Needs of Children from One Parent Families, co sponsored by the National Association of Elementary School Principals and the Institute for Development of Educational Activities, a division of the Charles F. Kettering Foundation, Arlington, VA., 1980

Divorce disorders. Children whose parents separate are significantly more likely to engage in early sexual activity, abuse drugs, and experience conduct and mood disorders. This effect is especially strong for children whose parents separated when they were five years old or younger.
Source: David M. Fergusson, John Horwood and Michael T. Lynsky, “Parental Separation, Adolescent Psychopathology, and Problem Behaviors,” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 33 (1944).

Troubled marriages, troubled kids. Compared to peers living with both biological parents, sons and daughters of divorced or separated parents exhibited significantly more conduct problems. Daughters of divorced or separated mothers evidenced significantly higher rates of internalizing problems, such as anxiety or depression.
Source: Denise B. Kandel, Emily Rosenbaum and Kevin Chen, “Impact of Maternal Drug Use and Life Experiences on Preadolescent Children Born to Teenage Mothers,” Journal of Marriage and the Family56 (1994).

Hungry for love. “Father hunger” often afflicts boys age one and two whose fathers are suddenly and permanently absent. Sleep disturbances, such as trouble falling asleep, nightmares, and night terrors frequently begin within one to three months after the father leaves home.
Source: Alfred A. Messer, “Boys Father Hunger: The Missing Father Syndrome,” Medical Aspects of Human Sexuality, January 1989.

Disturbing news: Children of never-married mothers are more than twice as likely to have been treated for an emotional or behavioral problem.
Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Center for Health Statistics, National Health Interview Survey, Hyattsille, MD, 1988

Poor and in trouble: A 1988 Department of Health and Human Services study found that at every income level except the very highest (over $50,000 a year), children living with never-married mothers were more likely than their counterparts in two-parent families to have been expelled or suspended from school, to display emotional problems, and to engage in antisocial behavior.
Source: James Q. Wilson, “In Loco Parentis: Helping Children When Families Fail Them,”The Brookings Review, Fall 1993.

Fatherless aggression: In a longitudinal study of 1,197 fourth-grade students, researchers observed “greater levels of aggression in boys from mother-only households than from boys in mother-father households.”
Source: N. Vaden-Kierman, N. Ialongo, J. Pearson, and S. Kellam, “Household Family Structure and Children’s Aggressive Behavior: A Longitudinal Study of Urban Elementary School Children,” Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology 23, no. 5 (1995).

Act now, pay later: ”Children from mother-only families have less of an ability to delay gratification and poorer impulse control (that is, control over anger and sexual gratification.) These children also have a weaker sense of conscience or sense of right and wrong.”
Source: E.M. Hetherington and B. Martin, “Family Interaction” in H.C. Quay and J.S. Werry (eds.), Psychopathological Disorders of Childhood. (New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1979)

Crazy victims: Eighty percent of adolescents in psychiatric hospitals come from broken homes.
Source: J.B. Elshtain, “Family Matters…”, Christian Century, July 1993.

Duh to dead: ”The economic consequences of a [father's] absence are often accompanied by psychological consequences, which include higher-than-average levels of youth suicide, low intellectual and education performance, and higher-than-average rates of mental illness, violence and drug use.”
Source: William Galston, Elaine Kamarck. Progressive Policy Institute. 1993

Expelled: Nationally, 15.3 percent of children living with a never-married mother and 10.7 percent of children living with a divorced mother have been expelled or suspended from school, compared to only 4.4 percent of children living with both biological parents.
Source: Debra Dawson, “Family Structure…”, Journal of Marriage and Family, No. 53. 1991.

Violent rejection: Kids who exhibited violent behavior at school were 11 times as likely not to live with their fathers and six times as likely to have parents who were not married. Boys from families with absent fathers are at higher risk for violent behavior than boys from intact families.
Source: J.L. Sheline (et al.), “Risk Factors…”, American Journal of Public Health, No. 84. 1994.

That crowd: Children without fathers or with stepfathers were less likely to have friends who think it’s important to behave properly in school. They also exhibit more problems with behavior and in achieving goals.
Source: Nicholas Zill, C. W. Nord, “Running in Place,” Child Trends, Inc. 1994.

Likeliest to succeed: Kids who live with both biological parents at age 14 are significantly more likely to graduate from high school than those kids who live with a single parent, a parent and step-parent, or neither parent.
Source: G.D. Sandefur (et al.), “The Effects of Parental Marital Status…”, Social Forces, September 1992.

Worse to bad: Children in single-parent families tend to score lower on standardized tests and to receive lower grades in school. Children in single-parent families are nearly twice as likely to drop out of school as children from two-parent families.
Source: J.B. Stedman (et al.), “Dropping Out,” Congressional Research Service Report No 88-417. 1988.

College odds: Children from disrupted families are 20 percent more unlikely to attend college than kids from intact, two-parent families.
Source: J. Wallerstein, Family Law Quarterly, 20. (Summer 1986)

On their own: Kids living in single-parent homes or in step-families report lower educational expectations on the part of their parents, less parental monitoring of school work, and less overall social supervision than children from intact families.
Source: N.M. Astore and S. McLanahan, Americican Sociological Review, No. 56 (1991)

Double-risk: Fatherless children — kids living in homes without a stepfather or without contact with their biological father — are twice as likely to drop out of school.
Source: U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services, Survey on Child Health. (1993)

Repeat, repeat: Nationally, 29.7 percent of children living with a never-married mother and 21.5 percent of children living with a divorced mother have repeated at least one grade in school, compared to 11.6 percent of children living with both biological parents.
Source: Debra Dawson, “Family Structure and Children’s Well-Being,” Journals of Marriage and Family, No. 53. (1991).

Underpaid high achievers: Children from low-income, two-parent families outperform students from high-income, single-parent homes. Almost twice as many high achievers come from two-parent homes as one-parent homes.
Source: ”One-Parent Families and Their Children;” Charles F. Kettering Foundation (1990).

Dadless and dumb: At least one-third of children experiencing a parental separation “demonstrated a significant decline in academic performance” persisting at least three years.
Source: L.M.C. Bisnairs (et al.), American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, no. 60 (1990)

Son of Solo: According to a recent study of young, non-custodial fathers who are behind on child support payments, less than half of these men were living with their own father at age 14.

Slip-sliding: Among black children between the ages of 6 to 9 years old, black children in mother-only households scored significantly lower on tests of intellectual ability, than black children living with two parents.
Source: Luster and McAdoo, Child Development 65. 1994.

Dadless dropouts: After taking into account race, socio-economic status, sex, age and ability, high school students from single-parent households were 1.7 times more likely to drop out than were their corresponding counterparts living with both biological parents.
Source: Ralph McNeal, Sociology of Education 88. 1995.

Takes two: Families in which both the child’s biological or adoptive parents are present in the household show significantly higher levels of parental involvement in the child’s school activities than do mother-only families or step-families.
Source: Zill and Nord, “Running in Place.” Child Trends. 1994

Con garden: Forty-three percent of prison inmates grew up in a single-parent household — 39 percent with their mothers, 4 percent with their fathers — and an additional 14 percent lived in households without either biological parent. Another 14 percent had spent at last part of their childhood in a foster home, agency or other juvenile institution.
Source: US Bureau of Justice Statistics, Survey of State Prison Inmates. 1991

Criminal moms, criminal kids: The children of single teenage mothers are more at risk for later criminal behavior. In the case of a teenage mother, the absence of a father also increases the risk of harshness from the mother.
Source: M. Mourash, L. Rucker, Crime and Delinquency 35. 1989.

Rearing rapists: Seventy-two percent of adolescent murderers grew up without fathers. Sixty percent of America’s rapists grew up the same way.
Source: D. Cornell (et al.), Behavioral Sciences and the Law, 5. 1987. And N. Davidson, “Life Without Father,” Policy Review. 1990.

Crime and poverty: The proportion of single-parent households in a community predicts its rate of violent crime and burglary, but the community’s poverty level does not.
Source: D.A. Smith and G.R. Jarjoura, “Social Structure and Criminal Victimization,”Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency 25. 1988.

Marriage matters: Only 13 percent of juvenile delinquents come from families in which the biological mother and father are married to each other. By contract, 33 percent have parents who are either divorced or separated and 44 percent have parents who were never married.
Source: Wisconsin Dept. of Health and Social Services, April 1994.

No good time: Compared to boys from intact, two-parent families, teenage boys from disrupted families are not only more likely to be incarcerated for delinquent offenses, but also to manifest worse conduct while incarcerated.
Source: M Eileen Matlock et al., “Family Correlates of Social Skills…” Adolescence 29. 1994.

Count ‘em: Seventy percent of juveniles in state reform institutions grew up in single- or no-parent situations.
Source: Alan Beck et al., Survey of Youth in Custody, 1987, US Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1988.

The Main Thing: The relationship between family structure and crime is so strong that controlling for family configuration erases the relationship between race and crime and between low income and crime. This conclusion shows up time and again in the literature.
Source: E. Kamarck, William Galston, Putting Children First, Progressive Policy Inst. 1990

Examples: Teenage fathers are more likely than their childless peers to commit and be convicted of illegal activity, and their offenses are of a more serious nature.
Source: M.A. Pirog-Good, “Teen Father and the Child Support System,” in Paternity Establishment, Institute for research on Poverty, Univ. of Wisconsin. 1992.

The ‘hood The likelihood that a young male will engage in criminal activity doubles if he is raised without a father and triples if he lives in a neighborhood with a high concentration of single-parent families.
Source: A. Anne Hill, June O’Neill, “Underclass Behaviors in the United States,” CUNY, Baruch College. 1993

Bringing the war back home The odds that a boy born in America in 1974 will be murdered are higher than the odds that a serviceman in World War II would be killed in combat.
Source: US Sen. Phil Gramm, 1995

Get ahead at home and at work: Fathers who cared for their children intellectual development and their adolescent’s social development were more like to advance in their careers, compared to men who weren’t involved in such activities.
Source: J. Snarey, How Fathers Care for the Next Generation.Harvard Univ. Press.

Diaper dads: In 1991, about 20 percent of preschool children were cared for by their fathers — both married and single. In 1988, the number was 15 percent.
Source: M. O’Connell, “Where’s Papa? Father’s Role in Child Care,” Population Reference Bureau. 1993.

Without leave: Sixty-three percent of 1500 CEOs and human resource directors said it was not reasonable for a father to take a leave after the birth of a child.
Source: J.H. Pleck, “Family Supportive Employer Policies,” Center for research in Women. 1991.

Get a job: The number of men who complain that work conflicts with their family responsibilities rose from 12 percent in 1977 to 72 percent in 1989. Meanwhile, 74 percent of men prefer a “daddy track” job to a “fast track” job.
Source: James Levine, The Fatherhood Project.

Long-distance dads: Twenty-six percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children.
Source: US Bureau of the Census, Statistical Brief . 1991.

Cool Dad of the Week: Among fathers who maintain contact with their children after a divorce, the pattern of the relationship between father-and-child changes. They begin to behave more like relatives than like parents. Instead of helping with homework, nonresident dads are more likely to take the kids shopping, to the movies, or out to dinner. Instead of providing steady advice and guidance, divorced fathers become “treat dads.”
Source: F. Furstenberg, A. Cherlin, Divided Families . Harvard Univ. Press. 1991.

Older’s not wiser: While 57 percent of unwed dads with kids no older than two visit their children more than once a week, by the time the kid’s seven and a half, only 23 percent are in frequent contact with their children.
Source: R. Lerman and Theodora Ooms, Young Unwed Fathers . 1993.

Ten years after: Ten years after the breakup of a marriage, more than two-thirds of kids report not having seen their father for a year.
Source: National Commission on Children, Speaking of Kids. 1991.

No such address: More than half the kids who don’t live with their father have never been in their father’s house.
Source: F. Furstenberg, A. Cherlin, Divided Families. Harvard Univ. Press. 1991.

Dadless years: About 40 percent of the kids living in fatherless homes haven’t seen their dads in a year or more. Of the rest, only one in five sleeps even one night a month at the father’s home. And only one in six sees their father once or more per week.
Source: F. Furstenberg, A. Cherlin, Divided Families. Harvard Univ. Press. 1991.

Measuring up? According to a 1992 Gallup poll, more than 50 percent of all adults agreed that fathers today spend less time with their kids than their fathers did with them.
Source: Gallup national random sample conducted for the National Center for Fathering, April 1992.

Father unknown. Of kids living in single-mom households, 35 percent never see their fathers, and another 24 percent see their fathers less than once a month.
Source: J.A. Selzer, “Children’s Contact with Absent Parents,” Journal of Marriage and the Family, 50 (1988).

Missed contact: In a study of 304 young adults, those whose parents divorced after they left home had significantly less contact with their fathers than adult children who parents remained married. Weekly contact with their children dropped from 78 percent for still-married fathers to 44 percent for divorced fathers.
Source: William Aquilino, “Later Life Parental Divorce and Widowhood,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 56. 1994.

Commercial breaks: The amount of time a father spends with his child — one-on-one — averages less than 10 minutes a day.
Source: J. P. Robinson, et al., “The Rhythm of Everyday Life.” Westview Press. 1988

High risk: Overall, more than 75 percent of American children are at risk because of paternal deprivation. Even in two-parent homes, fewer than 25 percent of young boys and girls experience an average of at least one hour a day of relatively individualized contact with their fathers.
Source: Henry Biller, “The Father Factor…” a paper based on presentations during meetings with William Galston, Deputy Director, Domestic Policy, Clinton White House, December 1993 and April 1994.

Knock, knock: Of children age 5 to 14, 1.6 million return home to houses where there is no adult present.
Source: U.S. Bureau of the Census, “Who’s Minding the Kids?” Statistical Brief. April 1994.

Who said talk’s cheap? Almost 20 percent of sixth- through twelfth-graders have not had a good conversation lasting for at least 10 minutes with at least one of their parents in more than a month.
Source: Peter Benson, “The Troubled Journey.” Search Institute. 1993.

Justified guilt. A 1990 L.A. Times poll found that 57 percent of all fathers and 55 percent of all mothers feel guilty about not spending enough time with their children.
Source: Lynn Smith and Bob Sipchen, “Two Career Family Dilemma,” Los Angeles Times, Aug. 12, 1990.

Who are you, mister? In 1965, parents on average spent approximately 30 hours a week with their kids. By 1985, the amount of time had fallen to 17 hours.
Source: William Mattox, “The Parent Trap.” Policy Review. Winter, 1991.

Waiting Works: Only eight percent of those who finished high school, got married before having a child, and waited until age 20 to have that child were living in poverty in 1992.
Source: William Galston, “Beyond the Murphy Brown Debate.” Institute for Family Values. Dec. 10, 1993.

 

More Statistics

  63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
  90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
  85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes (Source: Center for Disease Control)
  80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978.)
  71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)
  75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children.)
  70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
  85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)

The State of Fatherhood

  37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights. (Source: p.6, col.II, para. 6, lines 4 & 5, Census Bureau P-60, #173, Sept 1991.)
  “40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father’s visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse.” (Source: p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991.)
  “Overall, approximately 50% of mothers “see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children….” (Source: Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125)
  Only 11% of mothers value their husband’s input when it comes to handling problems with their kids. Teachers & doctors rated 45%, and close friends & relatives rated 16%. (Source: EDK Associates survey of 500 women for Redbook Magazine. Redbook, November 1994, p. 36)
  “The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children.” (Source: Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991.)
  “A clear majority (70%) of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children.” (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol Lowery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984.)
  “Very few of the children were satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce.” (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Koch & Lowery, Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 50, Winter 1984.)
  “Feelings of anger towards their former spouses hindered effective involvement on the part of fathers; angry mothers would sometimes sabotage father’s efforts to visit their children.” (Source: Ahrons and Miller, Am. Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 63. p. 442, July `93.)
  “Mothers may prevent visits to retaliate against fathers for problems in their marital or post-marital relationship.” (Source: Seltzer, Shaeffer & Charing, Journal of Marriage & the Family, Vol. 51, p. 1015, November 1989.)
  In a study: “Visitational Interference – A National Study” by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W., it was found that 77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to “visit” their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of “visitation interference” perpetuated by the custodial parent. In other words, non-compliance with court ordered visitation is three times the problem of non-compliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more. (Originally published Sept. 1992)

 

 Child Support

  Information from multiple sources show that only 10% of all noncustodial fathers fit the “deadbeat dad” category: 90% of the fathers with joint custody paid the support due. Fathers with visitation rights pay 79.1%; and 44.5% of those with NO visitation rights still financially support their children. (Source: Census Bureau report. Series P-23, No. 173).
  Additionally, of those not paying support, 66% are not doing so because they lack the financial resources to pay (Source: GAO report: GAO/HRD-92-39 FS).
  52% of fathers who owe child support earn less than $6,155 per year. (Source: The Poverty Studies Institute at the University of Wisconsin, Madison,1993)
  66% of single mothers work less than full time while only 10% of fathers fall into this category. In addition, almost 47% of non-custodial mothers default on support compared with the 27% of fathers who default. (Source: Garansky and Meyer, DHHS Technical Analysis Paper No. 42, 1991).
  66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to inability to pay.(Source: U.S. General Accounting Office Report, GAO/HRD-92-39FS January 1992).
  Total Custodial Mothers: 11,268,000
  Total Custodial Fathers: 2,907,000 (Source: Current Population Reports, U.S. Bureau of the Census, Series P-20, No. 458, 1991).

The following is sourced from: Technical Analysis Paper No. 42, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Income Security Policy, Oct. 1991, Authors: Meyer and Garansky.

  Custodial mothers who receive a support award: 79.6%
  Custodial fathers who receive a support award: 29.9%
  Non-custodial mothers who totally default on support: 46.9%
  Non-custodial fathers who totally default on support: 26.9%

 

False accusations of abuse:

  160,000 reports of suspected child abuse were reported in 1963. That number exploded to 1.7 million in 1985.

 

  There were more than three million reports of alleged child abuse and neglect in 1995. However, two million of those complaints were without foundation or false! (Source: National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (NCCAN) Child Maltreatment 1995: Reports From the States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System)

 

 

                    Infamous Fatherless People

BILLY THE KID

SADDAM HUSSEIN

SIRHAN SIRHAN

ADOLPH HITLER

ROBERT GRAYSMITH
(ZODIAC SERIAL KILLER)

MARC LEPINE
(MASS MURDERER OF 14)

JACK THE RIPPER

LEE HARVEY OSWALD

JOHN WILKES BOOTH

JEFFREY DAHMER

CHARLES MANSON
(CULT LEADER)

“MONSTER” CODY
(L.A. CRIPS GANGLORD)

27
Jul
09

Reira Starring Yuna Ito-Endless Story

 

If you haven’t changed your mind
I want you to be with me tonight
I’m tired of pretending to be strong
We were too young
Every time I think about you baby
I can see it now, I miss you
It’s so hard to say I’m sorry

I want to sing this song for you
Not for just anybody
The never ending story will continue on in this radiance
I always want to tell of it, forever

Memories of our time together
Don’t disappear like this, don’t go away
They’re starting to warmly melt, so I’m going to make sure
A drop of gentleness spreads down on my chest
I’m missin’ you so much that it hurts
Don’t let go of your hand that’s atop mine

If my wish were to come true, I’d want to sing
This song for you one more time
The never ending story, with incessant love
Tell me why, tell me, forever

I want to sing this song for you
Not for just anybody
The never ending story will continue on in this radiance
I always want to tell of it, forever

21
Jul
09

Hillsong-Still

 

 

Hide me now
Under your wings
Cover me
within your mighty hand

When the oceans rise and thunders roar
I will soar with you above the storm
Father you are king over the flood
I will be still and know you are God

Find rest my soul
In Christ alone
Know his power
In quietness and trust

14
Jul
09

Andy Lau-Lian Xi

 

If only one more second remained
It would lessen tomorrow’s pain of missing you
I’d be willing to let go of everything
In exchange for the existance of any little bit of possibliity

Only a cup of dripping sand is left of happiness
Eyes wide open, watching each act* of sweetness
I’ll never have that original commonplace possession again
Until now, it seemed like an helpless extravagant demand

I’ve already begun to practice, begun to slowly worry
Worry that this world doesn’t have you
I’ve already told my tears not to cry any longer
But how should a love that is ending continue?

I practice daily, becoming familiar daily
With this city that doesn’t have you
Trying to delete everything in this “two person world”
All the beauty and memories we once mutually possessed

Love is a 10,000 hectare forest
But you and I have lost our way
Didn’t we agree to force our way out together?
How can I be the only one left to return, to return?

13
Jul
09

It’s Like My Mind Knows What’s Right but My Heart is Being Retarded and Still Cares

Beberapa hari belakangan ini, setelah gw tahu “kebenaran” yang sesungguhnya, entah kenapa setiap pagi bangun tidur atau malam mau tidur, perasaan gw selalu campur aduk. Sakit, kecewa, benci, sayang, kasihan, rindu semuanya “blended” jadi satu. Ooo God.. I hate this…. Mengapa sulit sekali melupakan dirinya, yang sudah menusuk gw dari belakang untuk kedua kalinya…. 
Hueh… Gw benar2 lagi “metal”. Dgr lagu MLTR, That’s Why(You Go Away) saja perasaan gw jadi ga karuan, samapi gw copy paste liriknya. 

MLTR-That’s Why(You Go Away)
Baby won’t you tell me why there is sadness in your eyes
I don’t wanna say goodbye to you
Love is one big illusion I should try to forget
But there is something left in my head

You’re the one who set it up
Now you’re the one to make it stop
I’m the one who’s feeling lost right now
Now you want me to forget every little thing you said
But there is something left in my head

I won’t forget the way you’re kissing
The feelings so strong were lasting for so long
But I’m not the man your heart is missing
That’s why you go away I know

You were never satisfied no matter how I tried
Now you wanna say goodbye to me
Love is one big illusion I should try to forget
But there is something left in my head

I won’t forget the way you’re kissing
The feelings so strong were lasting for so long
But I’m not the man your heart is missing
That’s why you go away I know

Sitting here all alone in the middle of nowhere
Don’t know which way to go
There ain’t so much to say now between us
There ain’t so much for you
There ain’t so much for me anymore

I won’t forget the way you’re kissing
The feelings so strong were lasting for so long
But I’m not the man your heart is missing
That’s why you go away I know
That’s why you go away I know……

 

 

Ooww no, what happen with me?
I must move on!! No matter what… 
Lord please help me… 

AMDG

06
Jul
09

My Girl

 

I’ve got sunshine
On a cloudy day.
When it’s cold outside,
I’ve got the month of May.

Well, I guess you’ll say
What can make me feel this way?
My girl. (My girl, my girl)
Talkin’ ’bout my girl. (My girl)

I’ve got so much honey
The bees envy me.
I’ve got a sweeter songThan the birds in the trees.

Well, I guess you’ll say
What can make me feel this way?
My girl. (My girl, my girl)
Talkin’ ’bout my girl. (My girl)

Ooooh, Hoooo.

Hey, hey, hey.
Hey, hey, hey.

I don’t need no money,
Fortune or fame.
I’ve got all the riches, baby,
One man can claim.

Well, I guess you’ll say
What can make me feel this way?
My girl. (My girl, my girl)
Talkin’ ’bout my girl. (My girl)

Talkin’ bout my girl.
I’ve got sushine on cloudy day
With my girl.
I’ve even got the month of MayWith my girl.

06
Jul
09

Andriy & Tasya

 

Just a gentle whisper told me that you’re gone

Leaving only memories where did we go wrong

I couldn’t find the words then, so let me say them now

I’m still in love with you

Tell me that you love me, tell me that you care

Tell me that you need me and I’ll be there

I’ll be there waiting

I will always love you, I will always stay tune

There’s no one who loves you like I do, come to me now

I will never leave you, I will stay here with you

Through the good and bad I will stay tune

I’m in love with you

 

Now we here together yesterday has passed

Life is just beginning close to you and I

And I promise to you I will always be there

I’ll give my all to you

Living a life without you is more than I can have

Hold me close forever and I’ll be there

I’ll be there for you

 

I will always love you, I will always stay tune

There’s no one who loves you like I do, this I promise

I will never leave you, I will stay here with you

Through the good and bad I will stay tune, hold me closer

Our love is forever, holding us together

Nothing in this world can stop us now

Love has found, love has found the way

04
Jul
09

Planetarium-Ai Otsuka

 

yuutsukuyo kaodasu kieteku kodomo no koe
tooku tooku konosora no dokoka ni kimi ha irun darou
natsu no owari ni futari de nukedashita kono kouen de mitsuketa
ano seiza nandaka oboeteru?

aenakutemo kioku wo tadotte onaji shiawase wo mitai nda
ano kaori to tomo ni hanabi ga patto hiraku

ikitai yo kimi no tokoro he ima sugu kakedashite ikitai yo
makkura de nanimo mienai kowakutemo daijoubu
kazoekirenai hoshizora ga ima mo zutto koko ni aru nda yo
nakanai yo mukashi kimi to mita kirei na sora datta kara

ano michi made hibiku kutsu no ne ga mimi ni nokoru
ookina jibun no kage wo mitsumete omou no deshou
chittomo kawaranai hazu nanoni setsunai kimochi fukurandeku
donna ni omottatte kimi ha mou inai

ikitai yo kimi no soba ni chiisakutemo chiisakutemo
ichiban ni kimi ga suki da yo tsuyoku irareru
negai wo nagare boshi ni sotto tonaetemitakeredo
nakanai yo todoku darou kirei na sora ni

aenakutemo kioku wo tadotte onaji shiawase wo mitai nda
ano kaori to tomo ni hanabi ga patto hiraku

ikitai yo kimi no tokoro he chiisana te wo nigirishimete
nakitai yo soreha soreha kireina sora datta
negai wo nagare boshi ni sotto tonaete mitakeredo
nakitai yo todokanai omoi wo kono sora ni…

 

Translation:

Evening approaches and the voices of night-smiling children fade
I know that you are somewhere under this sky, far, far away
At summer’s end, we snuck away together, we found this park
I kind of remember that constellation

Even if I don’t meet you, I can search for memories
Of the same sort of happiness.
Both the smell and fireworks going “bang”

I want to go to where you are
I want to start running there soon
I can’t see anything in the inky darkness
Even if I’m scared I’ll be okay
The wisdom of this clear sky
Is here now all the time.
I didn’t cry when I saw you in the past
Because the sky was clear.

Daily, from that road over there, I can only hear one sound.
Maybe you’ll stare at your big shadow.
It is not in the least expected to change.
A sad feeling expands inside you.
This is the “you’re not there” kind of feeling.

I really want to go and be next to you
Even though I am really, really small
I love you the most
I can be strong
I suddenly try to make a wish on a falling star
Maybe I’ll reach the point where I don’t cry
In a clear sky.

Even if I’m not with you, I can search for memories
Of the same sort of happiness.
Like the smell, together with fireworks going “bang”

I want to go to your place (The place that is with you…)
A small hand clenching yours,
I want to cry; that is a beautiful sky.
I suddenly try to make a wish on a falling star
Under this sky, I don’t think that I want to cry.